This is why I offer these corollaries of Wheaton's Law to help prevent and deal with conflict:
- People generally don't act like dicks on purpose. Forgive them their dickishness and lead by example.
- If someone accuses you of being a dick, don't be a dick about it, else you'll prove them right.
Apply this in your day-to-day interactions. If someone's being a dick to you, before you invoke Wheaton's Law, consider the larger picture and realize they might have just been caught up in trying to win at life. If someone has accused you of being a dick, you should first ask the honest question of yourself "Was I?" with the full understanding that the answer may be yes. My father once told me the measure of a man is how well he takes criticism, and I'm inclined to believe him.
Let's all add these to our subconscious and become better for it. Remember, part of being humanist is being human.
*I've not heard the entirety of Wheaton's talk which coined this law, so it's likely he covered this already. Due to much recent discussion in humanist circles I felt it necessary to highlight these ideas.
** Edit: As a quick note, I'll say this - the idea of "Deep Rifts" among the atheist/skeptic community is at once true, misleading, and irrelevant. Lots of people have different ideas on what is the best way to achieve the same goals.